Last week, I shared my thoughts on the things you need to consider when wanting to find a parenting specialist to help your family and WHEN you will need one.
Let's now look at one of the top 5 reasons why you will need a parenting and teen challenging behaviour specialist to help you.
Top 1 reason: It can boost your confidence and skills as a parent, and offer you the support and reassurance you need - we know there's no parenting manual to show you how to parent your teenage children. You learn how to parent through your own experiences of being parented. You are not always aware of how your past influences your future and present, and sometimes, these past influences can create blind spots that hinder your ability to connect effectively.
Sometimes you feel strong and confident and know exactly what you are doing and other times you may feel a bit lost and confused as to what you are doing as a parent. This is where a parenting specialist can be invaluable.
A good parenting and teen challenging behaviour specialist can ..
help address Specific Parenting Challenges and restoring harmony: Everyone is saying teenagers are difficult and selfish, but every teenager is different. Your family is different. This means the difficulties you are facing as a parent are different. The challenges could be as generic as communication breakdowns, setting boundaries, managing emotions, conflicts at home, co-parenting challenges or navigating technology use, but the solutions need to be specific and tailor-made to meet your unique family circumstances.
help you feel heard and understood, they create a safe space for you. This reduces the isolating feeling of inadequacy you experience.
help you recognise your strengths and celebrate your successes, no matter how small. Recognizing these achievements fosters a sense of self-efficacy and bolsters morale, reminding you that you are capable and effective even amidst challenges.
offer reassurance that your struggles are shared, and give you the emotional support you need that's different from what a family and a friend can offer.
offer you parenting practical tools and knowledge that are evidence-based; strategies and techniques are tailored to your family's specific challenges, empowering you to feel prepared and proactive when facing difficult situations. I once worked with a parent who felt constantly criticized by their teenager. They felt lost and unsure how to respond. Through open conversations and role-playing techniques, we explored the parent's communication style and identified how it unintentionally triggered their teen's defensiveness. With new skills and a shift in perspective, the parent learned to communicate with empathy and clarity, leading to a stronger connection and more positive interactions.
help you understand age-appropriate developmental information and offer you insights into your teenage children's behaviour patterns and growth stages to help you respond in ways that nurture your teenage children's development effectively.
Through validation, knowledge sharing, and skills building, parenting specialists play a vital role in empowering parents to navigate the complexities of parenthood with increased confidence and competence. By providing a supportive environment, practical tools, and ongoing guidance, they help you embrace your strengths, overcome challenges, and confidently nurture your teenage children's growth.
Everything you say and do matters to your teenage children, you become that inner voice and strength for them. It highlights how important and influential your role is as a parent.
Don't wait until you feel overwhelmed. Investing in your family is an investment in your teenage children's well-being and your family's happiness.
Remember, you're not alone in this journey. With the right support and guidance, you can confidently nurture your teenager's growth and build a strong, lasting bond.
If you are struggling to help your teenagers who are struggling, you can jump into our Heal Family First Method: 5 day taster where you get to experience instant positive change at home using the TTP principles. Book here.
Until then,
Remember, 🌈there's always hope, endless hope
Pei-I