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5 reasons why parenting strategies don't work - which missteps are you making?

Updated: Nov 7, 2023

Have you found yourself attend every parenting class and read every parenting book only to find out that they don’t work for you as a parent when it comes to parent your teens with challenging behaviour?

Many parents have walked this path as I have had the privileges to help many of them to come out of this exhausting and hopeless cycle. The following are the insights from my experience. ✅ They don’t and can’t tell you what your unique family blueprint is. This is your unique family make up that involves around your family’s interaction, affection, emotional involvement, behaviour, beliefs and values. There are also life adversaries and your experiences of being parented to be thought about. ✅ The strategies are too general and universal. This means that there’s no one size fits all strategy because your family is one of the kind and everyone in it. Every family circumstances are different. Individual needs are different. They need to be considered when developing a parenting strategy ✅ They don’t have a full understanding of your teens’ challenging behaviour and unable to provide you with a extensive analysis of the challenges you are facing, such as what keeps the challenging behaviour going at home, what’s trigger it … etc. ✅ The parenting strategy may not be targeting the right contributing factors that triggers or keep the challenging behaviour going. If your teen’s aggressive behaviour is as a result of sensory challenges due to ASD, and you try to manage the aggressive behaviour by giving your teen consequences. This is not going to work. ✅ They don’t show you in details as to how you implement the parenting strategies effectively. There are many factors to think about when trying a new parenting strategy, such as how you are introducing new rules, how many rules, who gets to be involved, what happens when your teens don’t agree with the new rule, but given it’s too general, you are already not setting up for success. ✅ They don’t show you how you evaluate or review how the parenting strategy is working out for you or not, so that you can learn to make all strategies work for you. Instead, when you hit a block, you mind goes to “ it doesn’t work”. It’s true, it doesn’t. If you are tired of being in this cycle of trying everything but nothing works, the best way to help your teens with the stuff they are struggling with and break the cycle of their challenging behaviour, is through my TTP method. The TTP method resolves all the issues stated above and can help you have the harmonious family life where you can watch your teens thrive and have a better relationships at home in 90 days.


Warmly Pei-I, Parenting and Teen challenging behaviour specialist @ Rainbow Parenting Practice P.S. I empower high-achieving mums to help their troubled teens who get stuck in patterns of challenging behaviour with ease, success and have a harmonious family life in 90 days using TTP Method. The quickest, most effective and most impactful method to strengthen your family connections and change your family story. If you are ready for impactful changes in your home, book a Raising Thriving Teens 5 5 Day Mini Taste. Book here Until then, Remember 🌈There’s always hope, endless hope


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