A lot of parents are feeling hopeless about the situations at home with their teenage children but they are suffering and struggling silently.

It feels that they have invested so much financially and emotionally to help and fight for their teenage children yet they have nothing to show for. They see their friends' teenage children are doing well and living their best life, they feel heartbroken for theirs.

They are in despair but I also know that they have not given up. They are still looking for the next thing to help them help their troubled teens and family, but they are worried that the next thing or person they find may disappoint them again so they may become more reluctant to try new things to help their family.

So many families and parents suffer because they don't get the results they want when working with a parenting specialist or parent coach. Be careful who you choose to work with and here I share with you the most 3 important components you need to consider when wanting to find a parenting specialist/coach to work with your family.

• The first component is the " Parenting specialist"- the person - who is a skilled and experienced professional.

How do you check on if they are the people to help you?

1) Binge on their free resources to find out if you are aligned with what they are teaching you. If they have no free resources for you to access, I would stay clear. 2)

Make sure you check on their professional qualifications - being a parent of teenage children is not enough. Without the doubt, they will have lots of wonderful experiences to share, but you also need them to have professional knowledge and skills to back the experience up.

3) It's a no-no if the coach is giving you parenting strategies/advice without 1st trying to know more about your unique family blueprint and circumstances. It would be like a doctor prescribing you medication without knowing anything.  

• Second component - YOU as a parent. You need to be in a place where you are ready to do the work and be open-minded about trying new strategies (for me anyway), you also need to be ready to reflect and look into your way of parenting so that you understand what you are bringing to the table, both your strengths and areas for change.

• Third component is, of course, the PARENTING STRATEGIES - in order to make parenting strategies work for your family, you need to

1) have a parenting specialist/coach who is skilled to help you identify what the difficult behaviour is

2) identifying what the contributing drivers to the behaviour

3) prioritising the most impactful driver/s to work on first

4) developing tailored made parenting strategies that meet your your unique family blueprint and circumstances

5) to show you how to implement

6) to support you evaluate what works and what doesn't. This is the comprehensive model I use to help my parent clients address the difficult behaviour at home with success every single time.

Make sure to consider the 3 components before working with a parenting specialist. It's your family we are talking about here, and this can not be taken lightly. If any one of the components of missing, you may need to consider if this is the right time for you to work with a parenting coach/specialist.

Pei-I

Parenting and Teen Challenging Behaviour Specialist

🌈 There's always hope, endless hope.

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